Lifestyle Etiquette
What To Bring
Packing well makes any lifestyle event more relaxing and more fun. Here's a practical checklist for a hotel takeover or weekend party.
Outfits: plan at least one outfit per night plus a themed look if the event has a dress code. Lifestyle parties tend to dress up — think sexy, bold, and a little extra. Bring layers so you can adjust.
Swimwear: if there's a pool or hot tub, pack at least two suits so you always have a dry one.
Play essentials: condoms, lube, and any toys you enjoy. Even if the venue provides basics, having your own removes any awkward moment.
A door sign: a pineapple door hanger or custom sign signals you're in the lifestyle and open to meeting other couples. It's the easiest icebreaker there is.
Party games: a card or couples game breaks the ice in a room full of new people. Our lifestyle party games are designed exactly for this.
Your own drinkware: an engraved flask or tumbler means your cup is never in question — and it's a conversation piece. Pineapple-etched drinkware quietly signals you're in the lifestyle all weekend long.
Toiletries and a small towel: freshen up between socializing and play. Breath mints and hand sanitizer are small courtesies that go a long way.
Discreet bag: a plain tote or small duffel keeps your essentials together and your visit private.
Comfort items: a robe, slippers, and a phone charger make the room feel like yours. You'll be glad you have them at 2 a.m.
Meds and ID: any prescriptions, and a valid ID — most events check at the door.
Keep it organized and you'll spend the weekend enjoying yourself, not running back to the room. Discreet packaging on everything you order from us means your gear arrives privately, too.
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